chele recently posted about counseling/therapy, which prompted me to drop the following lengthy commentary:
Your questions and comments are welcome.
It’s funny you mention this, as I’ve been considering just this, recently. In fact, I (even more recently) said that I wasn’t gonna do it because I knew I wasn’t in the right place for what I knew was to come.
I’ve also had experiences in the past which told me the one thing that often changes people’s impressions of those they consider to be mentors, counselors, teachers, parents, etc: I realized these folks were only human - and not necessarily all that great at what they do.
I used to basically have complete faith in these people, but I’ve seen healthcare professionals who didn’t respect patients’ rights to privacy, teachers who were knowledgeable, but couldn’t teach, managers who were experienced, but couldn’t manage, and counselors who’d received some training, but who really couldn’t offer me much more than an ear to bend.
If that’s all I need, then cool, but if I want to feel like this person is going to challenge me in substantive ways AND listen to what I say, I tend to worry that I’ll end up with a dud.
That said, when weighed against the alternative, counseling may turn out to be a fine option.