In chele's recent blog entry, "Put Down Your Dukes," she mentioned the fact that sometimes stupid arguments masquerade as worthwhile debates. I couldn't agree more.
I'm fine with a bit of back-and-forth on a topic, but often there comes a point at which one or more involved parties realize that all the points have been made, those points won't get any clearer, and no one's going to change their minds.
That's a good time to move on.
Another is when it becomes apparent that your discussion partner is disingenuous. One sign of this is when you address their points and their rebuttal is simply to restate them. The Cosby Show said it best, "Saying it loud don't make it right."
That's a good time to move on.
Not to put it all on the other person, it's also a good idea to recognize when you have too much emotion tied up in the topic-of-discussion, to have a reasoned, rational, civil conversation. Whether the reasons for your emotions are "good" or "bad" is irrelevant to the question of impedance. In other words, when those feelings become obstacles and barriers in the discussion, that's not doing anyone any good.
That's a good time to move on... to a discussion topic or discussion partner you feel is more worthy of debate.
5 comments:
I've read plenty of blogs that I totally disagreed with....then I remembered that lil' "next blog" thingy in the upper right hand corner.
I agree, if you are too emotionally invested in a particular topic there probably isn't a cool-headed way for you to address it, leave it alone.
Agreed. This philosphy would apply to every topic except sports, beer, and food.
when you have too much emotion tied up in the topic-of-discussion, to have a reasoned, rational, civil conversation
... when I'm feeling like this I it's in everyone's best interest for me not to say anything at all. Unfortunately, I've dealt with folks who can't give me some time to collect myself and they end up on the receiving end of some serious verbal abuse.
Indeed.
As I say, if you can't accurately repeat/rephrase your opponent's position, there's little point in debating it.
There are few things as worthless as two people arguing about two different things, if you know what I mean.
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