tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post7838252274640360458..comments2023-09-30T06:07:27.416-04:00Comments on Questioning Semantics: Surreality BitesWesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-74533317003903624112007-06-14T15:21:00.000-04:002007-06-14T15:21:00.000-04:00That's really kind of you to say. Thanks.To be ho...That's really kind of you to say. Thanks.<BR/><BR/>To be honest, I share some of your suspicions about the brainwashing.<BR/><BR/>I love my Pops, but what you suggest is completely plausible.<BR/><BR/>Of course, I wish them both the best because the love just won't die.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-29200692875090057342007-06-14T15:15:00.000-04:002007-06-14T15:15:00.000-04:00I think the young man admires you, and also knows ...I think the young man admires you, and also knows that if he is having problems with your dad, you of all people will understand. <BR/><BR/>I admire your ability to separate any natural antipathy under the circumstances from your natural kindness. (When my brother, the Christ Child, got married, my parents openly favored his wife over me. It hurt.)<BR/><BR/>I suspect that the lack of rosiness in his relations with your father are NOT all his fault, but that he has been brainwashed by your father and perhaps his church to think it is. <BR/><BR/>It seems clear that he is reaching out to you. And having just read your blog for the first time, I can see why.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-27670301634506244712007-06-12T09:46:00.000-04:002007-06-12T09:46:00.000-04:00Lotsa great feedback. Thanks, everyone.To answer ...Lotsa great feedback. Thanks, everyone.<BR/><BR/>To answer the questions...<BR/><BR/><B>Keith:</B> No lil ones for me 'til marriage, I hope, and that ain't gonna happen until I get a lil more schoolin'.<BR/><BR/><B>angie:</B> LOL<BR/><BR/>So true. I remember the times he WOULD come to get me, when I was a child, I'd be ecstatic to see him, but I'd always return home crying.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-20193110407852222102007-06-12T09:14:00.000-04:002007-06-12T09:14:00.000-04:00Okaaay, wierd situation - but you handled it well....Okaaay, wierd situation - but you handled it well. Any way the cut goes you did what was good for the young man and for your karma. <BR/><BR/>Now the ignit me: Them daddy's is a mutha ain't they?!?Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13370568546202869034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-64235380224798595002007-06-11T17:00:00.000-04:002007-06-11T17:00:00.000-04:00I wouldn't hug my mother (forget the kiss) for abo...I wouldn't hug my mother (forget the kiss) for about eleven months in my young adulthood. <BR/><BR/>Her family's preference for the boys (I am the only girl of five boys) is pathological, and when one of her sons seriously threatened both her and me, and I took legal action, she could not emotionally reconcile her need for self-protection and protection of one of her children from another of her children, and the huge (I suppose) act of embodying a form of racial, gender-centered betrayal against her son. (Dee-yam, I never EVEN thought of this before. Been so peeved.)<BR/><BR/>I wrote her off after that. But she's got much deeper issues, and my hugs were a form of protection for her, so I slowly let her back in. Figures, my family and I are all she has to lean on (Must be why I lost my freakin' mind, kept drinking the orange juice, and gave her four grands.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-89312667813291329432007-06-11T14:22:00.000-04:002007-06-11T14:22:00.000-04:00This is about as random as it is when a guy's "gir...This is about as random as it is when a guy's "girlfriend" calls you out the blue, and ends up spilling her guts and crying to you about their relationship, and you have no clue whats goin' on. Before you know it, you're counseling a lost soul to come down off the bridge.<BR/><BR/>Hypothetically speaking, I understand the surreality of the situation.<BR/><BR/>I won't get into what it must be like to see your father, "fathering" other peoples kids, and not his own (which I'm sure adds to the bite). Bless you for positively interacting with his "other kids".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-35988633723154753082007-06-11T13:51:00.000-04:002007-06-11T13:51:00.000-04:00The longest my mom hasn't spoken is a bit over a y...The longest my mom hasn't spoken is a bit over a year. She didn't speak through either of my pregnancies, my sophomore year in college, most of last year...it gets tiresome and sometimes I just want to tell her to never call me again just to be done with it, but I don't do that. She'll not speak because she didn't like something I did or said, or an opinion I have. She recently found out I have a blog so I'm anticipating another round of her screening her calls with caller ID. She's done two years with my sister.Liz Dwyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794296990587989214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-33454063402882694392007-06-10T18:05:00.000-04:002007-06-10T18:05:00.000-04:00You gave the kid some good advice, but like all ad...You gave the kid some good advice, but like all advice it's only good if he uses it, or truly knows why he's rejecting it. It's interesting that you felt close enough to him to try and play the big brother role. My shrink would have a field day with this.<BR/><BR/>I have a similar relationship with my dear old dad. It's part of the reason my blog exists. We differ though because my dad thinks he did a lot for his family. Let me rephrase: my father is the only person that thinks he was there for his family. Black fatherhood is a difficult topic. <BR/><BR/>Speaking of that, when did you say you were going to start working on little East, North , and South? (I'm kidding, don't hit me.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-84933711057752898822007-06-10T17:34:00.000-04:002007-06-10T17:34:00.000-04:00Welcome, seventh sister.You could be right. That'...Welcome, seventh sister.<BR/><BR/>You could be right. That's why I'm treating him like he's 100% genuinely.<BR/><BR/>I'd have to see proof that he's pulling a 007 for my Pops before I'd cut him off or something. It's entirely possible that his unusual way of speaking stems from the fact that he's been largely raised by my father - a man with an unusual way of speaking.<BR/><BR/>Though this may be the pot calling the kettle black. :-)Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-19133410628881479912007-06-10T16:39:00.000-04:002007-06-10T16:39:00.000-04:00maybe there is no underlyng meaning to his calls. ...maybe there is no underlyng meaning to his calls. It could be that he is wanting to get to know you better. He mostlikely admires you and wants to know how you got to be the man you are today so that he can follow in your foot steps.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03354299078292553141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-46604723075069971042007-06-10T14:08:00.000-04:002007-06-10T14:08:00.000-04:00Liz: Do your Mom's silent periods last 2+ years? ...Liz: Do your Mom's silent periods last 2+ years? Just curious. I don't know too many other people who have this kind of on again, off again, relationship with their parents.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, the way things have been, I don't see our relationship ever being on, again.<BR/><BR/>Every single encounter is a disaster.<BR/><BR/>Thanks. (It's weird seeing someone call him my brother.)Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-86547055859395257662007-06-10T14:05:00.000-04:002007-06-10T14:05:00.000-04:00kim: I meant it. Like I said, it was hard to bel...kim: I meant it. Like I said, it was hard to believe that the whole thing was legit (and I still have my doubts), but I'm not willing to hang his short- or long-term happiness on my suspicions.<BR/><BR/>In fact, he called me, again, just last night. We talked for about 20 minutes.<BR/><BR/>Maybe he will be a shoulder for me. I don't see it, but it's not always easy to predict what we'll mean to others or what they'll mean to us.<BR/><BR/>I guess we'll see, kim. Thanks.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-52920760809996335142007-06-10T06:47:00.000-04:002007-06-10T06:47:00.000-04:00My mom goes through these phases where she's mad a...My mom goes through these phases where she's mad at me and doesn't speak. She definitely keeps tabs on me through my sister when she's not talking to me. <BR/><BR/>Regardless, it's so good that you are able to be there for your brother and give him both some straight talk and a listening ear. Both are so rare nowadays.Liz Dwyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794296990587989214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-44182249857958952312007-06-10T01:54:00.000-04:002007-06-10T01:54:00.000-04:00So...did you mean it? He's got you?You feel like ...So...did you mean it? He's got you?<BR/><BR/>You feel like you carry a lot (is that one word?), and hold it closely, deeply.<BR/><BR/>Maybe you could use a good "ear" as well; maybe his coming into your life could give you a shoulder of sorts.<BR/><BR/>Peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com