tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post115962028853924472..comments2023-09-30T06:07:27.416-04:00Comments on Questioning Semantics: Breaking Up Is Hard To DoWesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159808151594926852006-10-02T12:55:00.000-04:002006-10-02T12:55:00.000-04:00By the way, a [b] before and [/b] after a word or ...<B> By the way, a [b] before and [/b] after a word or group of words makes them bold, except replace these "[" with these "<".</B><BR/><BR/>Yesss! Thanks, I was using the same tag to open & close, so it wasn't working. Oh, I am about to be a <B>bolding</B>, <I>italisizing</I> fool. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159799933216852232006-10-02T10:38:00.000-04:002006-10-02T10:38:00.000-04:00Welcome back, Son.And yeah, I'm trying to make som...Welcome back, Son.<BR/><BR/>And yeah, I'm <I>trying</I> to make some changes for the better. Fingers crossed.<BR/><BR/>I hope all's well on your end.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159798667939674692006-10-02T10:17:00.000-04:002006-10-02T10:17:00.000-04:00When we were getting off the phone, she kept catch...<I>When we were getting off the phone, she kept catching herself saying, "Talk to you later," then realizing, "Well, I guess I won't talk to you later."</I><BR/><BR/>Yeah, that's the worst part. Haven't been around in awhile but I see that you are making some changes for the better in your personal life. Sometimes you gotta do what's best for you. Staying miserable because you have known someone a long time is not wise and just leads to further frustration and anguish down the road.Art Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16512422556677772379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159708893389284442006-10-01T09:21:00.000-04:002006-10-01T09:21:00.000-04:00Thanks, Cage.When we were getting off the phone, s...Thanks, Cage.<BR/><BR/>When we were getting off the phone, she kept catching herself saying, "Talk to you later," then realizing, "Well, I guess I won't talk to you later."<BR/><BR/>The loss of that casual ease and phrasing seemed to really get to her. I'm sure I'd feel the same way, if I'd received a "Dear John" call.<BR/><BR/>Part of me hopes that this will give her the motivation to do what I think she needs to do. In fact, she shared the fact that she sees this as "another" failure on her part - relationship-wise. One would expect that to lead to introspection, but I've also seen her do this with people she wanted to marry and, ultimately, it didn't stick.<BR/><BR/>So, I'm hoping, for her sake, but I'm not holding my breath.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159681945514385562006-10-01T01:52:00.000-04:002006-10-01T01:52:00.000-04:00Damn West. I feel for you brotha. I've had to expe...Damn West. I feel for you brotha. I've had to experience the same thing and it's NEVER easy to do regardless of who is at fault and even if your decision was just. I don't know about you, but I began thinking about the better times, less stressful periods in our lives. And that's the parts that start to get to you. I do hope that it all works out for you though man, and more importantly, for her.Luke Cagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129670058219925738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159668480415041632006-09-30T22:08:00.000-04:002006-09-30T22:08:00.000-04:00Thanks, chele.Thanks, chele.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159667837808877012006-09-30T21:57:00.000-04:002006-09-30T21:57:00.000-04:00I see why you assumed my post was about your situa...I see why you assumed my post was about your situation. It honestly was not. I have a friend who is having a really hard time dealing with the fact that her daughter is gay. Instead of looking beyond this choice and loving her daughter anyway she says these really horrible, nasty things to her own child in an attempt to make her feel ashamed. Instead, she has successfully alienated her daughter. That is who I was addressing.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure you made the best decision for you. I hope it works out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159653520772004092006-09-30T17:58:00.000-04:002006-09-30T17:58:00.000-04:00Thanks, James.She called me, today, and I took the...Thanks, James.<BR/><BR/>She called me, today, and I took the opportunity to tell her something I regretted not mentioning, yesterday - that I still care about her.<BR/><BR/>It's important that, if nothing else, she knows that much.<BR/><BR/>This is especially true since she went on about how she never would've expected this of me and how she's known me since I was a young'un (just over ten years). It seemed that her reasons for us to remain friends were mostly related to the quantity of years we've known each other, as opposed to the quality of the present.<BR/><BR/>I didn't argue with her or challenge any of her ideas about our friendship or why this was happening. I just made sure she knew that I didn't make this decision lightly and that she still has a place in my heart, even though, to be blunt, there's no place for her in my life.<BR/><BR/>Again, I appreciate the encouragement and feedback. I just really wish this whole thing hadn't been necessary.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159653117988437752006-09-30T17:51:00.000-04:002006-09-30T17:51:00.000-04:00West:Let me just back up the others and say that I...West:<BR/><BR/>Let me just back up the others and say that I, too, think you did the right thing.<BR/><BR/>I know you might not feel it right now, but in time you will see that it is for the best. I'm sure "Wanda" does see you as a "betrayer", but that's coming from a purely emotional place in her. Once the shock fades, hopefully she'll think about what she might have done to bring about your friendship's end and try to get help to prevent similar situations in the future.<BR/><BR/>Really, despite how you feel, this is probably the best thing for both of you. At least, right now. There's always the chance the friendship could be renewed later (provided she mends some of these issues she has).<BR/><BR/>It certainly isn't easy, but that's why they call it "tough love." I wish both you and "Wanda" all the best.James Meeleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15125466138669301618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159625807126032752006-09-30T10:16:00.000-04:002006-09-30T10:16:00.000-04:00I appreciate it, though, Remnants.By the way, a [b...I appreciate it, though, Remnants.<BR/><BR/>By the way, a [b] before and [/b] after a word or group of words makes them bold, except replace these "[" with these "<".<BR/><BR/>It's hard to type because if I do, it'll just make the word bold.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159624773835350142006-09-30T09:59:00.000-04:002006-09-30T09:59:00.000-04:00~~It is better to amputate a limb than to risk inf...~~It is better to amputate a limb than to risk infecting the whole body. That is what toxic friendships do and I think you did the right thing.~<BR/><BR/>Wow, I couldn't have stated it any better. I was going to say something about having toxic people in your life, but she summed it up pretty well.<BR/><BR/>I still don't know how to bold words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159623773599343102006-09-30T09:42:00.000-04:002006-09-30T09:42:00.000-04:00I've recommended it to her multiple times, but I d...I've recommended it to her multiple times, but I don't think her pride would allow her to do that... for now, at least.<BR/><BR/>Maybe she'll get the help she needs, one day, but if that happens, it'll probably be in spite of not because of anything I had to say.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure she sees this as a betrayal. Why would you want to consider the words of your betrayer?<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the encouragement, though, because, on some level, even *I* feel like I've betrayed her.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1159623562268532872006-09-30T09:39:00.000-04:002006-09-30T09:39:00.000-04:00It is better to amputate a limb than to risk infec...It is better to amputate a limb than to risk infecting the whole body. That is what toxic friendships do and I think you did the right thing. I hope you recommended therapy to her though. Not that it would make you come back but so that she can go on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com