tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post115513008388807007..comments2023-09-30T06:07:27.416-04:00Comments on Questioning Semantics: Cuttin' a mother-$#@^a OFF!Westhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1155218110876623572006-08-10T09:55:00.000-04:002006-08-10T09:55:00.000-04:00When I was younger I would cut someone off without...When I was younger I would cut someone off without hesitation for the smallest of reasons and never look back.<BR/><BR/>Now ... well, I'll put distance between myself and that person but if they come back around wanting to be cool with me again I'll probably proceed with caution.chelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15468273174800571759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1155149323399161482006-08-09T14:48:00.000-04:002006-08-09T14:48:00.000-04:00I've softened a bit in my old age, for some reason...I've softened a bit in my old age, for some reason.<BR/><BR/>All that really means, though, is that I've grown a somewhat thicker skin and choose my battles more carefully. I may not fight'em all, but I'll usually say or do something that'll make it easier to look at myself in the mirror, the next day.<BR/><BR/>I still think the same shit is rude, more or less, but my reaction to it is a bit different.Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1155143026731190002006-08-09T13:03:00.000-04:002006-08-09T13:03:00.000-04:00Back in the day, i was this meek person that didn'...Back in the day, i was this meek person that didn't want to be involved in drama or the cause of it. When a person did something that offended me, I usually just let it pass.<BR/><BR/>NOW... I. AM. A. TOTALLY. DIFFERENT. MAN.<BR/><BR/>I'll cut a muthaph%*ka off in a heartbeat. I had to learn the hardway that I can't be so quick to just toss my friendship out there. I had to learn how to recognize that a person was worthy of my respect and comraderie. And that meant learning how to respect myself. So when someone gets out of hand, I check 'em. If they get out of hand, like dis-respect my momma out of hand, :moves finger across the throat:, they get dealt with accordingly.<BR/><BR/>I'm kinda like Busta Rhymes now: "I keep my enemies close and me 'friends' even closer..."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1155140771608833302006-08-09T12:26:00.000-04:002006-08-09T12:26:00.000-04:00Thanks, Luke.re: viper's "Still that doesn't justi...Thanks, <B>Luke</B>.<BR/><BR/>re: viper's <B>"Still that doesn't justify the use of the word and so I find myself trying not to use it. The turning point was when i was talking to one of close co-workers, who is White. We were kidding around talking about how he's had 4 girlfriends since we've been on Summer break. During the conversation between he and I, I said, "Nigga, you silly!" as if I had been talking to one of my dudes."</B><BR/><BR/>I feel you. I had one of those moments in 2nd grade (no diss).<BR/><BR/>My best friend, Peter, and I were talking about <I>some</I>thing and I said, "Nuh-uh, nigga..."<BR/><BR/>He interrupted me and said, "Nuh-uh, YOU the nigger..." or something like that.<BR/><BR/>Honestly, my mind blanks on the moment just before he must've called me that word, but I get the same lesson, either way:<BR/><BR/>I was too comfortable with the word and decided that I wouldn't be tossing it around as casually as I used to.<BR/><BR/>Dunno if I stopped "cold turkey," that day or not, but it was a moment that has stayed with me in the 24 years, since. I guess that says something.<BR/><BR/>Peter and I remained friends, by the way. Dunno how but, *shrugs*<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><B>So vipe, how quick are you to cut a mo' fo' off?</B>Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305755944694741335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1155140270260519962006-08-09T12:17:00.000-04:002006-08-09T12:17:00.000-04:00I am trying to cut the word out of my vocab, but i...I am trying to cut the word out of my vocab, but it's been hard. Honestly, using it for so long has made it almost second nature to me. My thoughts on the word have been:<BR/><BR/>1) I wouldn't let anyone that I didn't know (whether Black or White) refer to me by the word....<BR/><BR/>2) A couple of my close friends who have been like brothers to me, we refer to each other that way, but it's been used as a term of bonding and friendship, never anger or negativity.<BR/><BR/>Still that doesn't justify the use of the word and so I find myself trying not to use it. The turning point was when i was talking to one of close co-workers, who is White. We were kidding around talking about how he's had 4 girlfriends since we've been on Summer break. During the conversation between he and I, I said, "Nigga, you silly!" as if I had been talking to one of my dudes. Neither one of us tripped on it, but after that moment, I knew that I had to cut it out. Sad I know....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18002888.post-1155139360115352482006-08-09T12:02:00.000-04:002006-08-09T12:02:00.000-04:00Damn West, you knocked this post right out the box...Damn West, you knocked this post right out the box my friend. Not bad at all. All of the points were written with just the right moxie that I would've written them. And there's something to be said about someone who writes like this and the reader finds himself nodding incessantly as I did. Kudo's brah. I couldn't have said it better. I see I'm not the only one who has issues with his dad huh?Luke Cagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129670058219925738noreply@blogger.com